Fear of the dark is one of the most common among adults and children alike. Most people grow out of it or do not suffer so strongly that they have trouble functioning. If your child is terrified of the dark, try some of these tips to help them get a good night sleep.
Avoid scary movies
Although a fear of the dark does not have to be tied to a fear of monsters, watching scary movies certainly does not help. If your child is sensitive to horror flicks and has trouble separating reality from fiction, steer clear of scary movies.
Limiting TV, in general, can also be effective in curbing the apprehension that creeps in when the lights go off. Things on TV that are not frightening to adults can become terrifying when combined with a child’s imagination and a dark setting.
Be understanding
For anyone with a fear, the one thing they want is for other people to respect that fear and by sympathetic. Avoid saying things to your child like “you’re too old to believe in monsters,” or “being afraid of the dark is for little girls, but you’re a big girl.” Instead, try to have a conversation with them and assure them that there is nothing to be afraid of. Acquiesce as much as possible to whatever request helps them feel safe.
Get to the root of the issue
Often we want to attribute a child’s fear of the dark to them thinking there is something lurking out there. This may not be the case. Sometimes children are afraid of the dark itself. Maybe they dislike the feeling of not having control over their surroundings or the darkness makes them feel alone. There are a myriad of reasons, but knowing why is one of the first steps in treating the issue.
Be constant
Don’t play into your child’s fear by pretending that monsters are real but they only go to bad children’s house or they are vegetarians and only eat socks. Although these will probably give your child comfort along with a good laugh, it does not empower them to overcome their fear. Instead, speak to them soothingly and reassure them that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Get rid of scary shadows
Some objects look downright menacing in the darkness. Try to remove or cover things that frighten your child when the lights go off.
Leave the door open
Having a barrier between your child and you can intensify their fear. By leaving their bedroom door open, you remove that barrier and can give them a tool (the knowledge that you are not far away) to overcome their anxiety.
Use a proper night-light
Avoid bright lights that can have a negative impact on your child’s circadian rhythm. If they insist on a bright light, try to gradually ease down to a soft light.
